Top 10 Tips to Save Your Marriage

I’m a divorce lawyer, but that doesn’t mean I like divorce.

I would love to see long, successful marriages where couples stay together, but the reality is that divorce is oftentimes inevitable. Your personal happiness should be a priority, so if divorcing your spouse will make you happier, I’m here to help you take a step in that direction. Life is too short to stay in an unhappy marriage.

However, if you think your relationship is salvageable, you and your partner can put in the work to save it. Based on my 18 years as a family law attorney, I have compiled a list of top 10 tips you can take to save your marriage.

  1. Travel apart, with friends. Traveling allows both spouses to build a sense of self as an individual and as a partner, and allows you to experience the joy in missing your spouse. Distance does make the heart grow fonder.
  2. Pre-nuptial Agreements. Often times discussions during pre-nup preparations sparks conversation between soon to be spouses about financial plans, beliefs, and habits. What does retirement look like for both of you? Have comprehensive life planning discussions in advance of your marriage.
  3. Listen to your spouse. It’s not about convincing, it’s about understanding.
  4. Acts of love. It’s the little things. Pick up a bouquet of flowers or their favorite snack at the grocery store.
  5. Say yes. Try to meet them halfway.
  6. Get off your phone and be present when speaking to each other.
  7. Hold hands, give hugs, maintain physicality.
  8. Say I love you.
  9. Make time for each other outside of your normal routine. Plan a date night for that new restaurant downtown or a weekend vacation out of town.
  10. Take care of yourself. You can’t pour from an empty cup.

The lawyers at Johnson Ritchey Family Law Firm have extensive experience in collaborative divorce, pre-nuptial agreements and post-nuptial agreements. Contact us today for more information.